To mark this event we will be sharing stories from our clients and our staff will be taking part in activities in and out of work to raise awareness. Here is a B’s story…..

When I first met my ex-partner, there was no sign that he was abusive. He took me on nice dates and treated me well, like no man had done before. However, it didn’t last.

We were together for over ten years, and we had two kids. He became more and more controlling and manipulative as time went on, he controlled the finances, he tracked me in the car. He didn’t like me going out anywhere, even to the shops. When I did go out, I kept my head down; I was afraid to say hello to anyone in case he saw me and was jealous and annoyed.

I didn’t comply with him easily. I was frustrated and angry and I spoke my mind, but you can’t win an argument with someone like that. I see now that he was insecure and delusional. All he cared about was himself, not me.

I sought help at Vale DAS and they helped me see that I was experiencing domestic abuse. They’ve continued to help me all the way through as I rebuilt my life. I’m fortunate, I also have a supportive family.

I didn’t recognize myself anymore in that relationship. I’d lost myself while I was constantly on alert about his behaviour. Now I’m rebuilding my life. I’ve learned to love myself, and I don’t need to look for love elsewhere to reassure me. I feel empowered and I know It’s OK to say “No”.

I was asked recently if I have a message for men who are abusive to women. I said, “Find yourself, be your true self.” Men must recognize that they can’t and shouldn’t try to control women. Treat us as equals, with the respect we deserve.